At a Crossroads

“The heart wants what it wants.” – Selena Gomez and every American rom-com

This is such a cliche statement. Since age 13, I have heard this phrase in numerous romantic comedies. The movie’s falling action was the female protagonist on a date with a guy that meets all her checklist requirements. Tom was handsome, successful and took Kate to a 5-star restaurant that overlooked some city skyline.

As they chat over glasses of champagne, Kate realizes he’s too familiar. They relate in their professions, ambitions and financial stability. But Tom doesn’t make her laugh nor keeps her guessing.

As she blacks out from whatever Tom’s saying, Kate thinks about the guy she ghosted. Jack was different. He was charming and adventurous. Being the perfectionist and planner Kate was, she couldn’t predict everything with Jack. Her biggest gripe with Jack was his financial instability. She understood his circumstances were complicated.

But Jack’s persistence, confidence, relentlessness, tenacity, drive, and playfulness was profound to Kate. There were ebbs and flows to him. They were ying and yang. There was never a dull moment. Kate believed Jack’s future was so bright. And their future together……could blind her eyes.

She realized she made a mistake.

I experienced something slightly similar to this…..with my career.

Yesterday, I attended an interview at a local technology firm. I had the opportunity to network with their staff and tour their office space. Everyone was pleasant, enthusiastic, and passionate about the company and its culture. They were transparent about the firm’s successes, opportunity areas for growth and its prospective employees’ coachability. Their appetizer spread included thick Chick-fil-A nuggets I enjoyed while admiring the magnificent view of the Mercedez Benz stadium.

Overall it was familiar. I understood their company, their products, their industry and the role I applied for.

But I couldn’t help but think about the commercial real estate class I was missing. Within the next seven days, I will officially complete a real estate program I never knew I could explore. There’s a clear career path including upward mobility, professional advancement, and continuing education opportunities that directly aligns with my long-term goals for entrepreneurship and wealth building.

It’s an incredible opportunity to transition. Yes, it takes patience, humility, diligence and persistence. The opportunity is standing right in front of me.

I felt like a female protagonist in a romantic comedy saying, “I’m sorry. Thank you for the dinner but I have to go.”

She runs out the restaurant like a maniac, gets in her car, drives through heavy rain, and hits a sidewalk (which I actually did) en route to proclaim her affection for the man she loves before it’s too late.

I knew I’d miss class for the interview. However, I knew I wanted the opportunity for its familiarity, the high probability to succeed and the perks. Whereas the other opportunity is somewhat familiar, uncertain (though I believe I will succeed), the initial perks are decent but the long-term perks are incredible personally and professionally.

What would you choose?


Author: BellaDour

Writer. Screenwriter. Poet. I write about personal development, self-care and adulting

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