7 Triggering AF Inspirational Quotes

We all need inspiration. Some of us follow social media accounts that post daily inspirational messaging for encouragement as a way to start our day or to improve our mood during tough times. But some of the messaging can be loaded statements that make growth and personal development sound effortless.

Here are seven inspirational quotes that are triggering AF.

  1. Love yourself. – Learning to love yourself is a lifelong process. If you’ve been living a life of self-sabotage rooted in self hatred or living a life based on society’s harmful messaging about worthiness and desirability, that’s a lot of shit to unpack. That’s a lot of triggers and negative coping mechanisms to identify, to understand why you engage in those coping mechanisms, how often you engage in them, identify the feeling/emotion and/or trauma that coping mechanism temporarily suppresses, and then create a healthy behavior to navigate the issue productively.
  2. Be kind to yourself. – Learning and practicing self compassion is a daily process. You have to think about what you say to yourself that’s unkind. How are you mean or cruel to yourself? Do you punish yourself? If so, how? How can you set boundaries with yourself? What positive affirmation can you tell yourself to replace negative self talk during specific situations?
  3. Practice self-care. – Sometimes, social media glamorizes self care as this fun, holistic spiritually enlightening practice. But you want to figure out what it looks like for you. It could be engaging in a hobby, journaling, yoga, meditation, etc. In addition, you have to figure out how to incorporate those practices into your daily routine.
  4. Just be yourself. – You have to decide whether you will show up as your authentic self and be prepared to defend yourself against naysayers or to operate in a way that doesn’t ruffle the feathers of others while suffering mentally and emotionally from minimizing yourself. It sounds simple but it’s quite a radical act. Will you operate from a place of misery or will you be courageous enough to come as you are? Either choice determines the trajectory of your life.
  5. Don’t care about what other people think. – But we do care. We care about how we’re perceived because it affects how we’re treated. We care about our work performance. We care about how well a major client receives our presentation that could result in a job promotion and a raise. Creatives care about how people perceive their work. You care about what suit you wear to the job interview because you want to exude executive presence. Living your life without caring about what others think is impossible. But living your life without allowing others’ opinions to dictate your happiness is doable. It’s a matter of finding a happy medium as my mother says.
  6. Life is too short to hold grudges so forgive and move on. – Sometimes, grudges and resentment are warranted depending on the person and the nature of your relationship with them. Yes, we’re responsible for making the best of the time we have. But that’s not a reason to quickly forgive without thoroughly understanding why you were hurt, how you were hurt, who you were hurt by, what you learned from the situation and how you can protect yourself moving forward. You have to forgive yourself and forgive for yourself when you’re ready.
  7. Let love find you, don’t chase it. – As a former pick-me, this triggered the fuck out of me. Growing up as a Disney princess fan who also watched American rom-coms starring Katherine Heigl religiously, I convinced myself I had to manufacture a fairytale romance. I was wrong. You don’t want to hear “be patient” when you’re fixated on hitting specific milestones by a certain age – especially as a woman. When you see your friends and other people around you booed up, you might feel left out. Then add internalized misogyny and ageism. You’re getting older, Prince Charming hasn’t arrived and the panic button in you says, “The clock is ticking you gotta make this happen or else you’ll be alone forever.” But the quote is true. Chasing romance is like chasing validation and the feeling of adequacy. If you’re chasing that, then you’re not ready for romantic love.

I don’t think the intention is to make life sound easy, but to prompt a person to take the first step toward improving a specific aspect of their life. If inspirational messages weren’t written simplistically, some may not read them if it were as long as this post.

What is your favorite inspirational quote? What does it mean to you?

How to Find Joy in Your Present During COVID

Monday marked the 1-year anniversary of COVID-19. When we first learned about the coronavirus, nobody could anticipate the detrimental effects it would have globally. But despite the chaos, we can find joy in our lives.

Today I am sharing tips about how to enjoy at least some elements of the present when you’re hitting a pandemic wall.

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Appreciate the Extra Time

Being laid off amid the pandemic was one of the best things that ever happened to me. As I reflected on my career options, I realized I needed something more fulfilling than an excellent compensation plan. I needed a career that allowed me to build meaningful relationships, cultivate a sense of community where people feel welcomed by using empathy and creative writing skills and that offered a flexible schedule.

Whether you start a new business, start a project, rediscover a passion, or make a career transition, do it! Conduct research, contact people who can help you, make a plan and begin. One of the most precious things the past year has granted us is ample time to be intentional about what we do next.

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Take Risks

I could have spent $500+ on a semester-long course to earn a certification within an industry I’m barely interested in, secure a job in that field and then move.

But that’s not how it worked out.

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In early September, I realized my old apartment had served its purpose and that it was time to move on. Three weeks later, I signed a 12-month lease and moved into a new apartment complex with no regrets.

Taking a leap is scary as fuck because there’s no control over what’s next, no systematic approach, and no comfort in familiarity. It’s based on complete faith in knowing things will work out.

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Cherish the Simple Things

Music plays a key role in your mental health and can improve your mood. Blasting Disclosure’s Nocturnal in my car or jamming to Marcos Valle’s Nao Tem Nada Nao while running errands on a beautiful sunny Friday afternoon makes the day more joyous, less monotonous and less lonesome.

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Maintain Your Friendships

Because I have been social distancing since March 2020, I’ve become accustomed to being alone. Consequently, I forget I have friends I can call. If you’re experiencing this, I recommend reaching out to a friend and propose weekly or monthly calls to stay connected.

For example, my old college friend and I hadn’t called each other since August but agreed to do monthly FaceTime calls instead of exclusively communicating via text conversations.

Ultimately, we have 100% of the power to cultivate joy into our lives.

What are you grateful for? How are you finding joy? Let me know in the comments below.

What’s Next?

We’ve been inundated with free course/webinar offerings, how to level up your career during a pandemic, how to start a successful side hustle, how to build a brand, etc.

Although there are many options to choose from, the influx of content has become overwhelming.

Where can you start if you don’t know?

Consider a few things.

1. What skill(s) do you need to improve on?
2. How can you leverage it within your personal and/or professional life?
3. What skill or subject matter are you most curious about? Why?

Self-reflection can help you set your intention and determine what works best for you.

Here are some free course offerings:

Coursera has made 80+ previously paid courses free for a limited period of time. You can explore subject matters like public health and social psychology.

General Assembly is now offering free Friday workshops from April to June. These workshops range from career development to entrepreneurship to personal development.


What skill or subject matter are you exploring? 

My Goals for 2020 (So Far)

Hi everyone! First off, I commend you for posting 2-6 entries weekly while working full-time or a as a full-time student. I find your commitment and discipline quite admirable.

With 2019 coming to an end and reading some of your posts regarding 2020 goals, I started to reflect on what mine are.

Typically, I think of New Year resolutions from this viewpoint, “I have to leave this behind going into the new year.” “Get ’em now before its gone!” type of thing.

Now I have decided to approach my 2020 goals differently from a place of wisdom. I see the new year as a continuation versus a do-over.

My Goals for 2020

  1. Create and maintain 1-2 social media accounts to connect with WordPress blog community
  2. Both clearly communicate and identify my expectations and desires within my relationships
  3. Exercise at least 30 minutes a day including basic yoga poses, 30 squats, 3 rounds of knee stretches, 3 rounds of leg lifts and 2-mile runs on the treadmill
  4. Start weekly meal preparation of quinoa-based breakfasts and lunches that I enjoy and give me energy throughout the day
  5. Explore healthy, non-sugary snacks via Pinterest to replace my consumption of high fructose corn syrup-based cookies, muffins, cereals, brownies and juices
  6. Increase my credit score
  7. Move into a 1-2 bedroom apartment preferably within close distance to Trader Joe’s, Walmart, and QuikTrip and 30 minutes from Atlanta
  8. Identify additional income generating opportunities
  9. Travel to Sapelo Island

What are your goals for 2020?

How to Maximize Your Time During Unemployment

Unemployment can bring a myriad of feelings. If you are like me, you had an organized job search plan and an expected date to obtain a new role. A month or two went by and your deadline passed. You sent congratulatory messages to your peers on their new positions or liked a picture of your former coworker at their new job.

“When will that be me?”

During your time on LinkedIn, you read an article about “hiring increased X percent compared to 2018.” You scratch your head in confusion. “Where? Who? I have had few or no interview requests.”

You remained consistent in your job hunting process by applying for numerous jobs per day, submitted additional documents and hoped companies’ application tracking systems would identify how you stand out from applicants as great as you, more experienced and recent graduates.

Occasionally, you answered random calls and anticipated a recruiter from one of the companies you applied to requested an interview. Unfortunately, it was a robocall or someone with the wrong number. After weeks of little to no response, you said to yourself, “I’m drained. Am I wasting my time? Is there something I’m missing? Should I settle for that position I’m overqualified for?”

The job search can be a tedious and anxiety-filled process. But changing our perception from lack of to an opportunity helps. Ask yourself, “How can I make the most of my time?”

1.      Learn a new skill. I’m currently taking digital marketing and SEO courses through LinkedIn Learning. It is beneficial for both professional and personal branding goals. LinkedIn Learning is one of many resources you can use to learn soft and hard skills such as emotional intelligence, leadership, negotiating, and personal branding. Many of its courses include hands-on exercises to test your knowledge. You can start and stop wherever you are in the course plan and interact with other LinkedIn members for help and support.

2.      Attend skill webinars. Thinkful, a career accelerator offers courses online including web development and data analysis. I attended their Coding 101 webinar which taught the fundamentals of HTML, CSS and how both programming languages communicate to build a website.

My instructor did an excellent job explaining HTML and CSS in the simplest terms for beginners. As someone planning to create my own portfolio site, the webinar gave a snapshot of what to expect. Thinkful also offers a two-week trial of its Web Development program with access to the first 80 hours of their web development curriculum and to live Q&A sessions with virtual mentors. Whether you’re looking to learn a new skill or make a career change, Thinkful is a great source to explore.

3.      More webinars. General Assembly offers data analytics, web development, UX design, product management, and marketing courses. As a GA alum, I attended their webinars including maximizing your LinkedIn potential, tailoring job applications with strategic research and implementing effective time management strategies.

4.    Getting out of your comfort zone via workshops.  I attended Accounting 101, Copyright 101, Estate Planning 101 and Investing 101 workshops. Initially, I had the preconceived notion the financial services industry required access through substantial wealth and 10-plus years tacked onto my age. Entering the workshops with an open mind made the learning process less intimidating and more fascinating.

These workshops exposed me to content creators, entrepreneurs, financial advisors, and wealth advisors. Surprisingly enough, I didn’t realize the workshops would be precursors to starting my blog and pursuing a career in commercial real estate.

5.   Engage in your hobbies. I took a Zumba class for the first time in seven years. I enjoyed learning the steps and making the choreography into my own. I love attending events such as screenwriting workshops, short film screenings, literature socials and poetry open mic nights. Being around other creatives inspire me in my own writing.

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I also enjoy attending free film pitch competitions and startup competitions. As a Communications major, watching each filmmaker and startup founder present their business pitch intrigues me. I examine their verbal and nonverbal cues during their presentations, make mental notes of what they could improve on and how I would do it better.

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Like the job search, doing things differently can be uncomfortable and nerve-wracking. I encourage you to embrace the unknown. Explore. Discover. You might find something you never expected. Enjoy!